Growing up, you spent a lot of time thinking about the paths other people have chosen to take in life; a mature thought process for such a young girl. Of all the people in you have encountered in life, you have always looked up to your older sister somehow certain that she was on the right one. She was on to big things and it left you in awe to watch.
You often thought hard about the kind of woman that you would grow up to be. Would you live in your sister's shadow forever? Hopefully some of the heart and strength your nanny possessed would rub off on you, so you too can embody the qualities it took to be a strong woman.
You thought about it often, but for some reason you didn't see a future in the cards for you. You saw the future to a certain point, and then it went blank. Would you make it as far as the people that you have looked up to for so long?
You couldn't see white picket fences that surrounded the yard you shared with your 'dream husband' or 'two kids and fluffy dog' daydream. The dark cloud of depression that seeped into your brain at such a young and impressionable age temporarily robbed those dreams of the future for you, leaving you fearful to make any plans. What if you didn't make it? What if it wasn't in the cards for you? Maybe you were only meant to be here for a short time, and that time in itself would be impressionable to the world?
You truly believed that you were put on the Earth to serve a greater good, and check out before you put up white picket fences to make sure your white fluffy dog didn't escape the yard.
You were wrong.
You were destined for much more than- and it'll take an entire lifetime to figure out what. You are worth an entire lifetime, just as much as anybody else.
While you're figuring it out, here are some tips to get you through the occasional storms (keep in mind: they will pass).
-Don't worry if 'you don't have it all figured out: social media will make it look like everyone has their entire life's direction planned to a T, but it's all an act. We are all highlighting our best days, most flattering angles and biggest achievements. A picture isn't the only thing you see that's filtered; some people are living their entire lives through a filter. Anyone who thinks they are in complete control over the course of their life is only kidding themselves. If we knew how it'd all play out, there would be no journey worth taking.
"Life is what happens when you're busy making other plans."
-Your parents/relatives/siblings are not embarrassing and they won't be there forever: spend more time with them as often as you can. Familial bonds are those that never leave you, regardless of the time and distance between you.
-Explore your truth and bask in it, even if you're doing it alone: What was 'on trend,' what other people said or thought about you will not matter two months from now. Their preoccupation with what you're doing says more about them than it does about you. Stick to your goals and stay true to who you are and what you value. Adopt tunnel vision if you have to. People respect uniqueness over sameness, because it's inspiring, allowing others to become comfortable in their own truth rather than a carbon copy of someone else.
-The only regrets you'll carry are the risks you didn't take, the words you never said, and the doors you never even tried to open. Take every opportunity that comes your way. The worst thing that can happen is you can say you tried and gave it your all.
-You're not as alone as you think you are in the feelings you've been feeling. Everyone will feel bouts of sadness, anxiety, or feeling like they don't belong at one point or another in their lives. It's normal, but if the feelings persist or feel particularly obtrusive, never be ashamed to speak up and ask for help.
You're doing the best that you can, and to me, that's pretty damn respectable.
Love,
A Brianna I hope you can be proud to become
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